Honestly, I’m not surprised CNM folks listed seven other benefits before sex. It’s not the CNM folks who are obsessed with sex, who put it on a giant pedestal, who worry about it inordinately and give up something vastly more important, like social connection, in an ultimately vain attempt to control it. It’s the monogamous folks who are much more likely to do that.
Actually, monogamous folks are way more sex-obsessed
Poly people really just want friendships
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